Dear friends, I have probably mentioned that I have a passion for reading. Today I finished a phenomenal book about OCD and social anxiety, and I beg you to read it when you have time.
It covers all three areas in which we communicate with people in the real world. Namely, in our friends’ circle, at work, and in public situations. It also offers practical advice for coping with social anxiety in all those major areas. I find most of the real-world examples highly helpful for people with OCD like us, and I am sure we will be less awkward if we follow them.
It is incredible that the book offers practical advice for all three social areas of life. Social anxiety at work is different from social anxiety in public, so it’s great someone considered it and wrote some coping methods. I will read the book and comment further. Thanks, Joon.
I ordered the book. Can someone tell me whether the friends in your social circle have ever noticed that you might have OCD or other mental problem? This is how I personally found that I have OCD. A friend of mine suggested that I should find out whether I have some anxiety disorder.
I have heard of such stories that a friend or family member noticed abnormal behavior in their close one. It was not like that in my case. I had doubts about whether I had the disorder. I then researched for some time and finally went for actual consultation.
You are a relatively self-conscious person then. I thought I knew myself, but now when I look back, I can see how specific patterns of my behavior indicated that there was something wrong. I’m still not sure whether those things developed over time or if I was born like that.
I can share something from my experience. Let your closest people from whom you seek reassurance let you know each time you do that. In this way, you can write down each time and specific theme you are seeking reassurance about and work to analyze it. The aim is to look objectively at your notes at the end and ask yourself whether your behavior is logical and needed.
I am unsure if it will fix your problem, but it will help you and make your brain “understand” that those actions are unnecessary. You can also try other techniques for coping with reassurance-seeking simultaneously with the one I mentioned.
I found several techniques online and from listing through some books. I am optimistic that some of those techniques should help me. I would be happy even for a slightly positive result because I want to change my image in front of others.
Feeling optimistic about changing your perception of your OCD makes you halfway there. You can use your intuition to try out techniques that you think might help you as a start. The key is not to lose your willingness to get better through the process.
I would love to try that. It looks straightforward to stick to. After analyzing the themes for reassurance, I would appreciate it if you knew what to do. Do I have to go to the therapist to receive a proper explanation?
It would be a great idea. You can also try to follow the advice I gave you earlier about finding what works best for you and sticking to it. I can feel that your case is not so concerning for your daily life, so you can experiment with different techniques until you find the right one.